I decided to switch the entry from “Hello” to “Welcome” since I want all of you to feel invited in to learn how we do what we do and move on to an authentically happier life after divorce.
You are part of a private group that wants more in terms of learning, living and loving despite divorce, despite trauma and we are your best girlfriends to keep you headed in the right direction.
This year, my forever man and I travelled across the US for music. We went to Jazzfest in May, Red Rocks two weeks ago and to Metlife in NJ to see Kenny Chesney/Zac Brown/Uncle Kracker (all were epic).
When I was recapping this past weekend with my mom, she asked me if my man really likes going to these shows or is he doing it just to appease me.
What?
I know he’s going for him AND for me. He knows I love live music and so does he. We may not equally love the band, but the live experience is always amazing.
Isn’t that awesome though? For himself AND for me?
This also got me thinking about what makes my relationship work?
What makes my parents’ 58+ year marriage work?
Don’t you want to know what the “secret” is?
I’m going to share it with you now, and you know the answers, but I will clarify and remind you.
What makes my relationship work is that I attracted someone who is a reflection of my relationship with myself.
Now, I was not always in the best relationship with myself especially right after my divorce, but dating taught me that and that’s a separate note.
When I Google the “pillars of a healthy relationship,” I can honestly (and finally) say, that all of those pillars exist in my relationship with myself (some are still work in progress, but I’ve passed the starting line).
I trust myself.
I communicate honestly, with myself.
I respect myself.
I can be intimate with myself
I set up boundaries to protect myself.
I support myself with healthy, actionable steps.
I work through problems logically and with empathy.
I actively listen and am present.
I found someone who I also share those values with and he does with me. We are partners in whatever life brings us and for whatever we create together.
By the way, almost all of these pillars of a healthy relationship apply to friendships, family, work and any other relationship you are in.
My message to you today is:
If you want help gaining clarity on how you feel and treat yourself so you can attract the best circle of friends, colleagues and a life partner or a “forever” man/woman…we’re here to help.
Divorce is a moment in time, and the work you put in for yourself with yourself will last the rest of your life.
What are you waiting for? Let’s create a positive step forward starting right now, email me directly at TH@exEXPERTS.com.
T.H. Irwin
Co-founder & Co-Host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: T.H. Irwin is cofounder of exEXPERTS & co-host of the Divorce etc... podcast. Together, she & Jessica demystify divorce through the wisdom of experience and by providing the support they wish they had when going through their divorces. On a scale from amicable to O-M-G, she endured an off-the-charts 4-year divorce but her resiliency, optimism & friendship helped her make it through! She's a martini-loving, fitness junkie with a career of creating meaningful experiences for people, & she's doing the same for exEXPERTS.
One Thing she wants You To Know: Trust your gut, it's the most honest life compass you will have.
Location: Worldwide
Make a Connection:
https://www.exexperts.com
Co-founder & Co-Host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: T.H. Irwin is cofounder of exEXPERTS & co-host of the Divorce etc... podcast. Together, she & Jessica demystify divorce through the wisdom of experience and by providing the support they wish they had when going through their divorces. On a scale from amicable to O-M-G, she endured an off-the-charts 4-year divorce but her resiliency, optimism & friendship helped her make it through! She's a martini-loving, fitness junkie with a career of creating meaningful experiences for people, & she's doing the same for exEXPERTS.
One Thing she wants You To Know: Trust your gut, it's the most honest life compass you will have.
Location: Worldwide
Make a Connection:
https://www.exexperts.com
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