I’ve been thinking about time, how much I have, how much I’ve consumed and how I’ve consumed it.
First name / exEXPERTS, I know you stop sometimes, just like I do, and think – how did we get to Friday already? How did my child get that old already? How am I already 54? WTF!
I remember very vividly just wanting to get through my day. It was very basic, get up, get the kids up, get the kids to school and home safely and everyone in bed at night. That was what my days consisted of during the last several years of my marriage.
Time is fleeting and this is only a cliche statement if you’ve heard it before.
If this is the first time you are hearing this phrase, then it’s epic – so repeat it to yourself.
Some revelations that are both positive and negative:
I’ve been out of my marriage longer than I was in it.
I stopped living my life for at least 4 years of my marriage.
My divorce stunted my growth for 4 years.
I had 9 surgeries in 4 years.
My first born is turning 25 this week.
The key though is to literally and mentally be where you are, NOT where you were.
Do I want to be that lost woman? No, so why would I live like her?
- I am where I am – and so you are you.
- I am present – and this is a choice.
- I am not missing an opportunity – and why should I?
- I am not missing a memory in the making – that would be a crime.
I cannot encourage you enough to take inventory for yourself and see if you are stuck.
✅ Are you living in the past but moving through the present and future?
✅ Are you just getting through your day so you can “get it over with?”
✅ Do you have the same message creeping up in your dreams and keeping you up at night?
The solution is simple – DEAL WITH IT! The choice is yours to make.
You may not have the outcome that you hope for but you must FACE IT.
Is it hard? Yes.
Is it uncomfortable? Yes.
Will it go away? Not if you don’t face it, deal with it and hopefully work through it.
My Message:
This is delivered with love, empathy, consideration and understanding. I get it all, trust me. There may be different extremes, but I know the feeling of being lost, being stuck and being scared.
I now live with the feelings of being able, being happy, being allowed and being okay (actually, better than okay).
I see how many of you want to, but don’t end up reaching out. If you want to set up a Connection Call with me to talk through your “life inventory,” then just do it!
Today can be the first day of the rest of your life – it’s the opportunity you’ve been hoping for. This is also for anyone who is just stuck in life, not just divorce – because it’s rarely all about the divorce. There is more and I get that too. 💕
T.H. Irwin
Co-founder & Co-Host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: T.H. Irwin is cofounder of exEXPERTS & co-host of the Divorce etc... podcast. Together, she & Jessica demystify divorce through the wisdom of experience and by providing the support they wish they had when going through their divorces. On a scale from amicable to O-M-G, she endured an off-the-charts 4-year divorce but her resiliency, optimism & friendship helped her make it through! She's a martini-loving, fitness junkie with a career of creating meaningful experiences for people, & she's doing the same for exEXPERTS.
One Thing she wants You To Know: Trust your gut, it's the most honest life compass you will have.
Location: Worldwide
Make a Connection:
https://www.exexperts.com
Co-founder & Co-Host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: T.H. Irwin is cofounder of exEXPERTS & co-host of the Divorce etc... podcast. Together, she & Jessica demystify divorce through the wisdom of experience and by providing the support they wish they had when going through their divorces. On a scale from amicable to O-M-G, she endured an off-the-charts 4-year divorce but her resiliency, optimism & friendship helped her make it through! She's a martini-loving, fitness junkie with a career of creating meaningful experiences for people, & she's doing the same for exEXPERTS.
One Thing she wants You To Know: Trust your gut, it's the most honest life compass you will have.
Location: Worldwide
Make a Connection:
https://www.exexperts.com
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