I didn’t make any New Year’s resolutions. I like to think that I’m on a journey where I strive to improve myself whenever it’s needed, rather than only waiting until January 1st. But I got a great email from Equinox – the gym I belong to – that I thought was so great, and carried an underlying message that we can all follow…all year long. It said “We don’t want you today. We want you every day.” And it went on to actually say that they do not accept new memberships on January 1, because they don’t want people joining disingenuously as part of a blind resolution.
I kind of loved that.
I know that the end of every year is a time of reflection for all of us…weighing and considering what’s working and what’s not, what changes we need to make, what habits we should stop and which relationships in our lives aren’t serving us. And I know that the beginning of each year is supposedly a time for a clean slate – to start anew and start fresh and start on your “new” goals.
I just think that’s putting so much pressure on yourself. Not just the potential of setting yourself up for disappointment (in yourself) but to feel like you have to know on Jan 1st what your year will be, and therefore letting yourself down if it doesn’t go as planned. I, for one, certainly had not planned – on January 1, 2008 – that I would be separated and heading for divorce four months later.
For everyone who loves to set goals and make New Year’s resolutions, I applaud you. But for those of us who don’t…don’t feel bad. I’m the first one to understand that life throws us curveballs and that things don’t always work out the way we hoped or expected. My humble advice? Take it one day at a time. One step at a time. Sure, think about your larger goals and aspirations and where you are headed in the long run, but don’t let the beginning of the year rush to get started on being your best self stress you out. You are allowed to move at the pace of your own life. ?
Jessica Herzberg
Co-founder and Co-host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: Jessica Herzberg is one half of the co-founding duo of exEXPERTS and the Divorce etc... podcast. She and her business partner T.H. are best friends paying it forward and sharing everything they wish they knew about divorce when they went through it. While Jessica's (two) divorces were amicable, no divorce is ever easy! It was the friendship that T.H. and Jessica shared that helped her through and became the catalyst for exEXPERTS. Jessica is a full helping of contagious energy with a side of potty mouth. (And if you're wondering how the two ladies have such a flair for face time - Jessica just so happens to be an Emmy-nominated TV producer!).
One Thing she wants You To Know: I chose to love my kids more than I hate my ex and we now function well as co-parents and are great friends. It's not a path for everyone, but it worked for us, if you can, make it work for you too!
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Co-founder and Co-host
exEXPERTS & Divorce etc...
Why We Chose her: Jessica Herzberg is one half of the co-founding duo of exEXPERTS and the Divorce etc... podcast. She and her business partner T.H. are best friends paying it forward and sharing everything they wish they knew about divorce when they went through it. While Jessica's (two) divorces were amicable, no divorce is ever easy! It was the friendship that T.H. and Jessica shared that helped her through and became the catalyst for exEXPERTS. Jessica is a full helping of contagious energy with a side of potty mouth. (And if you're wondering how the two ladies have such a flair for face time - Jessica just so happens to be an Emmy-nominated TV producer!).
One Thing she wants You To Know: I chose to love my kids more than I hate my ex and we now function well as co-parents and are great friends. It's not a path for everyone, but it worked for us, if you can, make it work for you too!
Location: Worldwide
Make a Connection:
https://www.exexperts.com
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